Are family’s often “too scared” to upset the afflicted person by doing an intervention?
Most are very frightened to “upset or embarrass” their loved one and they choose to endure all manner of hurtful behavior from the person in the hope that he/she will “come to their senses and see what is happening to them”, and somehow make a decision on their own to go to treatment. When asked how long they have been immobilized by fear they usually answer in terms of months and years, not weeks. Sometimes too, families and friends are so angry with the behavior of the person, that they become almost willing to divorce them or sever contact with them, in essence, to “write them off”.
Experience tells us that families almost never do an intervention until they come to the realization that INTERVENTION IS THE KINDEST THING THEY CAN DO FOR SOMEONE THEY LOVE. Remember, the alcoholic/addict has a brain disease and is so impaired that they cannot see what even a child can see, about their level of dysfunction. They almost always BLAME some other person, group, job stress, some painful death of a loved one, or some other painful event that they have experienced in life for their current abuse of alcohol, drugs, gambling, eating disorder, etc.
Do addicts ever stop abusing substances on their own?
Many addicts have stopped for weeks or months, and sometimes even years, only to return to their drug of choice or to another addiction.
The problem is not that addicts can’t stop using for periods of time during the active addiction.
The problem is that they have not LEARNED HOW TO LIVE comfortably without using something and that is why they return over and over to the addictive substance or process.
Addicts must learn how to live comfortably in their own skin without using destructive drugs or behaviors in an effort to deal with their anxiety, depression, LOW SELF ESTEEM, insecurity, fears, anger, grief, sadness, etc.
It is indeed heartbreaking for loved ones to have their hopes soaring that the addict has finally “seen the light” and quit abusing substances only to see that the addict returns over and over to the active addiction. This cycle occurs until the addict undergoes a rehabilitation process.
How do we select the appropriate treatment mode/course and treatment facility for our loved one?
Professional interventionists are quite knowledgeable about inpatient, outpatient, or self-help programs available in the different regions of the country. And they will consider all of the information about your individual in suggesting a treatment center that seems to be the best match for the issues involved.
What is the cost of Intervention?
Fees are calculated based on such factors as the style of intervention that is used, what other services are provided, transportation to treatment, and travel (for interventionist).